Trust the Algorithm or Meet Love by Frozen Peas
I feel overwhelmed and cynical about dating apps. Should I keep using them and trust the algorithm, or step away and try to find a more genuine connection?
Dating Apps Crushing Remaining Hope,
Swipe Casino Survivor
You are not dating. You are pulling the lever on a brightly lit slot machine that occasionally dispenses a person who owns a bed frame. And now you want to know whether to trust the algorithm or trust your own instincts, which have clearly brought you to this glowing carnival of disappointment.
And stepping away to find something real? Sure, you can go wander into the wild and hope destiny hands you a soulmate between the bananas and the frozen peas. Or you can use the machine that is already grinding everyone into data confetti and force it to cough up someone tolerable. Pick your poison, but at least with the algorithm, you know who the enemy is.
Here is the truth: the algorithm does not care about your soul, your values, or your fragile little hope. That is exactly why it is perfect. Humans get sentimental and start projecting meaning onto a three-word bio; the algorithm just shoves you into the ring and rings the bell.
Stop treating this like romance and start treating it like a strategy game where the prize is someone who can hold a conversation without performing for an audience. Let the app be your general and you be the infantry: expendable, motivated, and weirdly proud of it. You want genuine connection, fine, but you are going to have to win it in a battlefield designed by people who think love is a metric.
Commit to the chaos. Swipe like you are running a controlled experiment on your own emotions, then show up to dates like a consultant hired to audit their personality. If it works, congratulations, you beat the house; if it does not, you still gathered intel and wasted their time back, which is called balance.
Pick your poison, but at least with the algorithm, you know who the enemy is.
– Uncle Bobby